Learning how to have healthy boundaries has been a lifelong journey for me. I grew up in an environment where boundaries were never named, modeled, or honored. I learned early on to stay quiet, suppress my needs, and prioritize everyone else’s emotional comfort above my own. For much of my life, I felt confused—unsure why I felt awkward, overwhelmed, or uncomfortable in relationships that others clearly recognized as unhealthy, but that felt “normal” to me.
Read MoreA dear friend told me that she and her partner are starting couples therapy next week, which of course I am all for.
We were chatting over text and I was about to write, “I hope it goes well," but I didn’t. Instead, I found myself saying “That’s great. It’s the start of something different.”
Because here’s the thing: I don’t believe the first step towards change needs to go well.
Read MoreI’d love to offer a different kind of invitation this year. Instead of focusing on resolutions or trying to be “better” than you were last year, what if you asked a simpler, deeper question: How can I be more myself in 2026?
To be more yourself—to live authentically—is to live in alignment with your values, needs, feelings, and inner truth, rather than shaping yourself around expectations, conditioning, or the need for approval. It’s about really showing up for yourself, as yourself.
Read MoreI’ve had many hard conversations in my life — telling a friend their behavior hurt me, setting boundaries with family members, being honest with my business coach that her methods weren’t working for me, admitting to a partner that I was struggling emotionally. Some went far better than I expected, and others felt like I was banging my head against a wall. What I’ve learned over time is that we often enter these conversations — consciously or unconsciously — expecting the other person to meet us where we're at, see our perspective, validate how we feel, and hold our truth as their truth too. And very often, that just isn’t the case — but that doesn’t mean the conversation needs to end there.
Read MoreWe live in a culture obsessed with manifesting, pushing, and forcing outcomes. And yes—there’s value in knowing your target and shooting your arrow- my Sagittarius rising understands that well. But when we become fixated on the outcome, we miss the gifts in the journey. We even set ourselves up for disappointment.
Aligned manifestation happens when we know what we want, create the subconscious capacity to receive what we want, embody our worthiness, and then release control.
And then it grows beyond manifestation into a strategy that's even more powerful: Allowing and receiving.
How do we embrace this strategy? Through detaching from outcomes.
Read MoreI recently had an experience that reminded me how strongly the body and subconscious communicate when something important is ready to be seen. I was leaving my sister a voice memo when I suddenly felt nauseous and noticed a strong buzzing sensation throughout my body. Initially, I assumed it was overstimulation—perhaps too much caffeine—but it quickly became clear that my system was signaling for attention rather than distraction.
Read MoreWhen I'm feeling out of sorts, I go into my Cave. This is my “environment” according to the Primary Health System of Human Design, or PHS.
Your PHS Environment reveals where your body naturally settles.
Not where you think you should be comfortable — but where your nervous system can finally exhale.
This isn’t about overhauling your life or routine.
It’s about small, quiet adjustments that allow your body to feel safe again.
And it's not just about the physical environment or place- your environment is also a vibe that you can create regardless of where you are.
Read MoreWe are energy beings who exchange, absorb and alchemize energy all day long.
If you are highly sensitive, or have a lot of open centers in your Human Design chart, you probably take on other peoples’ energies like a sponge.
Read MoreThis Friday, March 14 at 2:54 AM Eastern, we experience a Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Virgo—an especially potent South Node eclipse.
South Node eclipses are about release. They invite us to shed outdated patterns, karmic residue, and old wounds that no longer belong in the life we’re growing into. This is a deeply karmic moment, one that holds the potential to shift you onto a new, more aligned timeline—what I often call a quantum leap.
Read MoreHuman Design emphasizes a central truth: every individual is inherently unique. As Ra Uru Hu, the founder of Human Design, said:
“My message to everyone is uniqueness. You are unique- I know it. It is so obvious. And it’s so clear that the perfected expression of your uniqueness is a holy thing. It’s holier than anything that anyone could ever imagine. It is the embodiment of the creative force in its fractal.”
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